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Why Would We Would Be Good Parents
Martha’s View… Being adopted myself, I know that a different biology between a mother and a child is no obstacle to love. I believe as a mother I can provide a safe and comfortable home to support a loving environment for our family. We have big hearts, and we’re looking forward to sharing the love that we have for each other with a child. As far as I can remember I have always known about the word “Adoption” and what it meant to be an adopted person. I grew up in a family where my older brother and sister where also adopted. I understand what a child goes through as they grow up and the questions they have about being adopted, because I have been through all of this myself in my own life.
I think that being adopted and now hoping to adopt a child myself that I can now parent is a comfort to you knowing that I can empathize first hand about any adoption issues or concerns that the child would have. My parents always told me from the time I was an infant that I was adopted and loved-but that I was special because I was a “chosen” baby. I have never felt ashamed or unhappy about being adopted-I have always felt “extra” love because of it and I would want the child we adopt to feel the same way.
Like you, my own birth mother made the choice you are thinking about doing now. I keep a special place in my heart for her because of the sacrifice she made. Walter and I understand that the healthiest way to raise a child who is adopted is to start by knowing and understanding their birthparents.
Walter’s View… I’ve experienced the presence of a father in the home and the absence of the same father. I believe in the importance of a father’s influence during the times when the child needs advice or does not understand something that has happened that seems overwhelming to them. A father needs to be there to show compassion, and to draw on a lifetime of experience that I have to guide them and help them learn. I believe that a father must talk to his children about virtues, the beauty of family, work, labor, and money, sex and marriage, and about facing challenges. I’m prepared and awaiting the blessed opportunity to fulfill those responsibilities.
I’d also be there for all of the fun things; the soccer games, little league, softball games, band concerts, scouts, and all of the rest. Here in Arizona, we are lucky to have many beautiful outdoor places where a father can spend time with his children.